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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think either of you do a perfect job with this.

You are keeping them in line with fear and shame. Your friend isn’t keeping them in line at all.

I think ideally you would say “drawing on walls isn’t okay because it damages homes and takes a lot of work to fix. I know it’s tempting sometimes but I expect you to control yourself.  You can draw on paper and hang it up on the walls. If you draw on the walls you will need to erase it or paint over it, and you will lose drawing privileges and if you do it at a friend’s house it will be a while before you will be allowed to go to a friend’s house.”

That’s what I have done. I don’t know, parenting is hard. Your friend has good intentions and is probably trying to avoid shame-based parenting but it’s too permissive. [/quote]

Oh and I would *not* say this in front of you. I would have explained gently exactly why it wasn’t okay and like a PP I would have had them try to clean it off and offered to paint over if that didn’t work.

And kids are always going to screw up. At your house or at another house. You can’t expect perfection of them. [/quote]

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