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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have articulated to your future husband why this is important and he is dismissive, then i would see that as a big red flag. And I say that as a woman who didn’t want a ring, my future husband insisted and so it sits in a drawer. It isn’t about the ring. It is about whether he takes into account what is important to you.

I’m also assuming you are not insisting on something insanely out of his budget.[/quote]

Right now he has a very limited budget. But in a year or two it will be a drop in the buckle for him. I haven’t insisted on any specific ring. I just know that if he puts it on a card, or borrows for it, which he has done for other things he wanted, he will have no problem paying it off in a couple of years when his salary increases majorly. I am not in general a spendthrift and don’t use credit card debt myself ever. But in his position I absolutely would for something important that I knew would be easily repaid down the road. People take out mortgages. This to me is like that, a cornerstone (more bad puns) of the joint relationship. The debt would become joint anyway. I’m not looking for a 5 carat ring or anything.[/quote]

This changes my opinion. You don't want "a ring" for sentimental reasons, you specifically want a ring that he cannot afford without financing.  I said it was a red flag on his part but I think the flag has switched hands with this update.  It is ridiculous to buy an engagement ring you won't be able to pay off for "a couple of years".  Then what, no wedding, no honeymoon?  Or you expect those to be financed too?[/quote]

My opinion is also changed. I totally agree with all this. [/quote]

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