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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you to the helpful posters. I do have kids (a bit older than hers) so I’ve been through the same stages. I love her to pieces and she loves me to pieces and we talk very openly and vent. It frustrates me that the things she complains about are so easily solvable! Especially since she’s so smart and talented at work. I did not realize it could be ADHD. Now the question is, should I bring it up or let it go…[/quote]

If it is ADHD (which I also have), you can be excellent, even 99th percentile at the things that you have a real talent and passion for, but pretty terrible at literally almost anything else. It's an extreme version of any normal person who pays more time and attention to the things that interest them and is unenthusiastic about the obligatory things. Someone with ADHD can hyperfocus on even things that are very hard for most people, and thus they seem quite brilliant (which they are)! [i]If[/i] they are passionate about those things. But even if they [i]really really really genuinely want to do certain other things[/i], and totally see the benefit of them, they may struggle to figure out how to start or finish them. This can be incredibly frustrating and demoralizing. If you're so smart, how come you can't manage this simple thing? It can also be helped-- partly, and with effort. But it's caused by a difference in brain chemistry, not lack of motivation or caring.  [/quote]

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