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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have more than one child? I mean besides your spouse? [/quote]

Yes, we have two (plus DH, haha). A big part of the problem is that they will both come to me and get annoyed while I'm helping the other one. Like I'll be helping Kid 1 with something and Kid 2 will start just harassing me about needing something else, and in the meantime my DH is off in the background, seemingly oblivious to this. And he doesn't seem to get that being harassed by Kid 2 while I'm trying to finish something with Kid 1 is stressful! It makes me feel a bit crazed.

He wants me to always come to him directly when this happens and make a custom request ("I am helping Larlo with this stuck zipper but Larla can't reach the peanut butter, can you help her with that?") and I feel like he should just be a little more in tune to things that are happening right around him and consider just saying "Hey Larla, Mom's in the middle of something -- can I help you?"

Instead what will happen is I'll ask him to do it, he'll act aggrieved at the interruption, and then two minutes later when I've finally dealt with Kid 1's zipper, DH will pop his head and say "Do you know where the peanut butter is, I can't find it."

Aaaaaaaaargh. I cannot.[/quote]

YESSSSS. I feel this DEEP in my soul.  And part of the problem is of course he doesn't know where the peanut butter is because you are the one shopping and putting groceries away.  For me, this happens ALL THE TIME. And not with peanut butter, because obviously that is something that can have a set place in the pantry, but with a million other things: sports uniforms, he has no idea if they are clean or dirty or unwashed or just unfolded because laundry is 100% me.  If I am out at lunchtime, than more likely than not kids will not have eaten lunch when I come back at 2pm.  DH's "rest" time is paramount and must not be disturbed but I can be disturbed at any time, during any task.  I don't know what the solution is.[/quote]

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