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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it’s something like a meal, decide ahead of time who’s in charge of lunch.

Also, when you need uninterrupted time, you need to leave the house. I know that kind of sucks. But if you’re not good at ignoring the way your husband is, leaving is the best strategy. Even if you’re just sitting on a park bench reading or whatever. Go to the library or a coffee shop to work. Etc. [/quote]

OP here. And yes, leaving the house is key. I'm struggling a bit finding place to go sometimes though. It was easier pre-Covid but now its harder and more awkward to spend hours at a coffee shop. I can, it's just less pleasant than it was a couple years ago. I also put a lot of effort into making the house nice and functional during Covid and part of me gets frustrated when I have to leave to do things like pay bills or work on a project or read. I spent time setting up our home office and creating comfortable spots to do these things during Covid when we couldn't go anywhere, and it sucks to have to leave to go sit in an uncomfortable chair in a too-cold coffee shop to pay bills when I have a nice desk with a pleasant window and my slippers and my favorite tea at home.

I know that now I'm must whining/venting. But it does feel good to be validated here and know I'm not the only one. [/quote]

Go in a room with a door, lock it, and do not come out for any reason.  You have to draw a former boundary.  Prepare for tantrums (from your DH) as your family adjusts to this.  It's better in the long run for your kids to learn some boundaries.[/quote]

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