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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nanny here/ Usually it’s the opposite, parents make rules for thee but not for me. We can’t do screen time (which is fair I’m being paid!), all meals are homemade, we have to be the clown for 12 hours. Parents do that, McDonald’s, and kids play by themselves. I’m fine with thst, as I’m being paid BUT lazy parenting makes my job so much harder when the kids don’t understand why I isn’t let them have an iPad all day or watch TV at dinner.  [/quote]

What a strange post. Parents want quality childcare, that's what they are supposed to do - to find a good caretaker. If they themselves sometimes fall short at something doesn't mean they should want bad childcare. Like, you might accidentally burn the food you're cooking, but if you go to a restaurant you wouldn't want to pay for a burnt dinner, right?  Also any good nanny knows it's not about being a clown for 12 hrs, it's to engage with children, give them age appropriate stimulation and opportunities to develop and teach them skills including independent play. [/quote]

It’s one thing to have slightly more lax rules for the parents than the nannies.  But I have had families who had completely different expectations, and it is confusing for the kids and much harder for the nanny to have to be the only one enforcing things.  My currently family is a bit like this.  I feed the kids healthy meals (lots of fresh fruits and veggies), enforce nap times and no screen time and make the kids clean up after themselves.  All while doing all the cooking, laundry and dishes for the kids (including for weekends).

The parents have a Saturday nanny so they only have to spend time with the kids on Sundays and they spend the entire day eating junk food (Dunkin for breakfast, McDonald’s for lunch, hot dogs for dinner, etc.) and watching tv.  They also don’t make the kids clean anything up so I arrive every Monday to toy explosion, dirty dishes and kids who are constipated, overtired and antsy.

If you demand high standards from your nanny but have no standards for yourself, then you are lazy and disrespectful and the fact that you are paying someone doesn’t change my opinion on that.[/quote]

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