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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your mom's safety trumps whether or not she's mad at you.

You're absolutely doing the right thing - bravo for you!

You'll never get the satisfaction of a crystal ball that lets you see what you avoided by getting your mother into assisted living, but the overwhelming likelihood is that you saved her from future injury and hospitalizations. You therefore saved her from avoidable pain, from avoidable trauma, from complications or life shortening issues that can arise from slip and fall and subsequent hospitalization events, etc...

You also saved yourself from the nightmare stress of the calls from paramedics who are responding to a 911 call from your mom, or - god forbid - the discovery that your mother needed help but couldn't get to a phone. You're saving your family from all the related stress and disruption.  And so on...

I just went through a lot of similar things with my mom, and one of the lifelines I held onto for my own sanity and decision making was "safety first". It's just the only smart approach.

So good for you OP. I hope your mother settles in, learns that feeling supported and safe is something she actually needed, and you all can sleep better at night![/quote]

OP here. Thank you so much! I’m trying to get her to understand that her safety is my priority but it’s been hard. She’s very angry right now . I hope this is temporary because it’s really hard to visit her when she’s throwing  daggers at me with her eyes and constant snark. She’d rather go back to her home where there was LITERALLY a shooting/death directly across the street from her.  Not only is she safe but also out of her neighborhood that has gone to hell. [/quote]

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