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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Uh, so let me get this straight.  Your household income is dependent on one person.  That person presumably wakes up early during the week and it sounds like on Saturday too.  They are asking to sleep in 1 day.  He is a weenie.  Ok, got it.

Let's look at the other side.  You are a SAHM and you have one child whose life is dependent on you as it sounds like you are breastfeeding.  You are a martyr.  Ok, got it.

Why don't you let DH sleep in one morning to feel refreshed and you can sleep in on Saturday so that you feel like you got your tit for tat.

[b]If you continue down this road of tit for tat comparison, you will be here in 5 years, divorced, talking about how your DH is dating another young chickadee and you are struggling as a single mom.  Avoid that.  [/b]

This guy is responsible for 100% of your household income.  Give him one morning to do as he pleases.  It's not a huge give.

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I see, standing up for yourself and expecting your partner to be a partner = tit for tat. Let’s be real, any guy that was a SAHD wouldn’t expect to wake up early both weekend morning with the kids on top of the other 5 days a week.  And if you are going down the road of fast forward 5 years with OP and her DH and divorce, he would be expected to pull is weight with the kids in joint custody and would be doing way more than waking up before 10am on one weekend morning so it benefits both of them to work this out.

OP, with your DH, it seems like you both aren’t communicating well.  If you needed to be somewhere, or do something, why he needed to be up before 10, you needed to communicate that.  If you are upset because you have to be up with the kids both weekend mornings, you need discuss that.  If you are upset because “you would never sleep until 10am” but you have the option to do so and never taken it - that’s not cool. On his part, if you didn’t wake him up and didn’t say anything he could have chosen to go about his day but the fact he said something and “and I won’t apologize” means he was upset and instead of discussing it he threw that out there.  Trust me, if he really felt there were no issues, there would have been no need to say anything.[/quote]

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