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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a big fan of Janet Lansbury, and her book "No Bad Kids" has had a huge impact on my parenting.

We set firm limits, and we do it with compassion.  I do my best to let my kids make mistakes and learn from them.  I try to give them choices and make their own decisions in a way that is developmentally appropriate.

I have several weaknesses.

[b]The main one is my two boys arguing (also 4 & 6) which drives me crazy and I don't deal with it calmly all the time.[/b]

I also have a day or two every now and then when I'm just in a shitty mood and I feel like I need to stay away from everyone or it leaks into the family.

Another one of them is that I get really bored playing with them for long periods.  I can play board games or sports with them, but watching them build lego towers or draw or whatever they ask me to do... I can do it for like 2 minutes and then I have to go do something.

Generally, though, we have a happy house.  The kids are joyful.  We don't discipline much.  They're good listeners etc.  
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Ugh this is my Achilles heel too.  And it is so ridiculous.  I am [i]yelling [/i]at them to stop [i]yelling [/i](and fighting).  :oops:  And then half the time they get upset with me for yelling (maybe because I'm calmer in different contexts), which I suppose if nothing else, cuts the conflict short. It is such a trigger for me -- just sensing that escalating fight in the background.

Also, getting out the door is weakness.  I seriously have to hold my tongue and just count down to myself and I still get snappy because *every day* someone is not getting ready, someone forgets something, someone spills something 1 minute before we leave, someone is whining, someone has lost one shoe.  Parenting has really exposed that one of my worst attributes is impatience.[/quote]

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