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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The path of least resistance is to go to an AI. Each person can find something that they enjoy.

Or join an eco adventure group tour for yourself once in a while to scratch that itch.

Look, your family has different needs than you, and they're not putting any effort into group activities. Disappointing? Yes. But, they never asked you to go to such length planning the trips that you did, and that's on you, not on them. Whenever you get resentful, keep that in mind. Nobody asked you to do what you did.

My mom was the same way. Steamrolled us into doing things her way and got resentful when we were not appropriately appreciative or helpful. It was exhausting for all of us. [/quote]

All these "steamrolling" comments seem misplaced.  There are two grown ups in this house, and it seems like they enjoy different things for vacation.  It also seems like, up until now, they have been doing both types of trips, with one adult happy and one adult miserable.  Hard to tell without knowing more about the dynamic, but it seems like both adults have been dragging the other along on their version of a fun vacation, instead of thinking creatively to find activities that everyone might enjoy.  If OP is a steamroller, then so is her DH (and kids) for insisting on a type of vacation that she does not enjoy.

OP, you have gotten a lot of good suggestions on this thread for ways to enjoy camping without your family and to find compromises and alternatives to the either/or dilemma currently at play in your family.  If you can put aside the name calling and people projecting their childhood issues onto you, hopefully you can find some good ideas for a third way forward to more enjoyable vacations.[/quote]

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