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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get rid of the tent but save the hiking gear. Go on vacations near resorts with amazing scenery like the Broadmoor in Colorado, rent a cool house at Lake Tahoe. Make sure there is good Wi-Fi. Spend some time hiking, let the kids play video games in the room if they want, see a movie, swim etc.[/quote]

Ok. I just need to get rid of this crazy discomfort I feel around dropping several thousand dollars on accommodations when I would enjoy sleeping in a tent much more for far less than a tenth of the price. But I also need to remember I also easily spent a grand on all the camping gear- tents, sleeping pads, sleeping bags, lighting, and the kitchen/cooking stuff.

I also need to let go of this vision/fantasy I have of our family and our camping trips together, leaving our devices at home, coming together to pack up the car, work to build a fire, put up the tent, cook together, and just enjoy the simplicity and beauty of nature.  Sigh. It is hard. It really is something I wanted for our family but I’m realizing I do have to take everyone’s desires into consideration when planning family activities- not just my own vision.[/quote]

You’re just now realizing that you “have to take everyone’s desires into consideration” when planning time THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO ENJOY WITH YOU? Change your ways right this second, or don’t come pouting and whining when…surprise!…your adult children don’t want to vacation with you or spend holidays with you.[/quote]

I guess you do kind of plan things around what the parents want to do when kids are very young.  But now their likes and dislikes are much stronger and they are older and more opinionated. Just requires some pivoting to take everyone’s desires into consideration.  My husband likes his staycations, zoos, and high-rise condo type trips and minimalist packing (as in whatever will fit into one backpack) and does not pack or carry for anyone but himself.  One kid likes the outdoorsy stuff but doesn’t like to do any of the work involved around it. Another prefers staying at home with the usual comforts in their own bed, with ready access to screens. The other kid hates bugs and public bathrooms but likes amusement parks and rides.  So, it’s not like I haven’t planned activities around all these desires- it’s just that when it comes to the things I enjoy, I have been especially persistent and proactive about planning them. [/quote]

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