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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree with the previous posters saying to [b]just visit the grandparents[/b]. [/quote]

NP.

Easy to say, but could be hard for OP to do.

What happens when the other relatives just show up unannounced? "Sorry, we can' t see you, go away"? Ideally that would happen, but in the moment it's hard to say to the grandparents, "You cannot have these people come into your house while we are here." And outdoors sounds great, but if the unvaccinated kids of the unvaccinated parents end up playing with OP's unvaccinated kids, well, kids are great little carriers of viruses and there's no way the adults will stop them in time to keep them six feet apart....

The grandparents might have good intentions of keeping the visit to just them and OP's family but that could evaporate if others turn up and the grandparents feel it's rude or mean to say go away.

And frankly I'm not even a fan of being outdoors with anti-vaxxers who insist they are immune. They won't care about masking or keeping distance if they don't mask. And again: Kids.

OP, don't go. Sorry, but it's too risky that the other family members will turn up, or lay a ton of guilt on your vaccinated in-laws and on DH and you too.

Maybe I missed it if you mentioned this already, OP, but why can't the vaccinated grandparents come to visit you instead of your going to them?

Alternative: Four hours each way is not a fun day trip with kids but yes, it can be a day trip. You drive down, have lunch with the grandparents without telling the rest of the family and you drive back. It's a possibility but not a fun day, really. So I'm sticking with : Do. Not. Go. I'm really sorry for the grandparents but the other relatives are being idiots and ruining things for everyone including your DH's parents. [/quote]

It's only hard if OP and the grandparents have trouble setting boundaries.[/quote]

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