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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What exactly happened between the two of them? How did you react?[/quote]

OP here. They met online and had sex twice. Realized there wasn’t much there and then I met her two weeks later. We dated for about two months before introducing to family/friends since we are both looking for something serious. They met and decided not to tell me because she liked me and I had made a comment about not wanting to date someone a friend slept with. I told my friend how I was looking at rings and he said he felt he needed to tell me.

I told her that I knew about that they had slept together and that my buddy told me. She cried and said she was afraid to tell me because of the comment that I made and because she liked me so much. I was more upset and hurt that they didn’t bother to tell me for a year. This weekend I was very distant and slept on the couch. I planned to talk to her but I just needed time to digest everything and not saying something I would regret. She decided to pack a back and leave to think things over. [/quote]

OP, it is entirely within your rights to break it off.  Everyone has to know their own limits and shouldn’t feel obligated to stay in a relationship that exceeds them.

That said, it sounds like your rigidity contributed to this.  Yes, the most honest thing would have been for her to tell you up front that she dated your friend so you could have broken up with her earlier.  If that’s the outcome you would have preferred here, to never get serious with her at all, then maintain your standards on that point.  But as a general rule, it’s good to leave room for honesty in your relationships even if that honesty might make you a little uncomfortable.[/quote]

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