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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like classic ADHD to me.

And the way I treat my son with ADHD is to praise the hell out of him when he gets it right.   It is so much more effective than pointing out the mistakes.   Trust me.[/quote]

Or classic high functioning autism. Brain can’t handle more than one thing, doesn’t multitask unless vitally important and for external people (ie getting fired or job reputation).

Keep a log so you know how pervasive the pattern is.

If adhd meds can help, if aSD maybe an executive functioning coach or behavioral therapy. But early intervention is the only way to avoid bad habits and defensive attitudes. At age 40 it’s Unf pretty ingrained.  He’s in over his head w adult responsibilities and is going to get nasty about it. [/quote]

So why is it that the brain doesn't work with internal people?[/quote]

I’m not the poster you’re replying to, but I have a teen with HFA and ADHD and I agree with everything PP said. The reason they don’t function at the same level with their family at home is because they’re so mentally exhausted from doing it outside the home. Home is their safe place where people love them and will forgive them, so they can relax and be themselves. Imagine if you spent all day at school or work balancing on the high wire. When you went home, you’d just want to walk normally on the ground, not having to concentrate carefully on your every move.[/quote]

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