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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm assuming you aren't married?

Is part of this that he hasn't asked you to marry him?[/quote]

Why would any woman marry a man who insisted she pay her own way? Will he do his own laundry, cook his own food, and clean up his own bathroom? Who is responsible for the bedding--or do you have separate bedrooms?

This is just so weird. [/quote]

It's weird that you assume the woman would be doing any of this.[/quote]

It isn’t to me.  I am friends with quite a few European couples who live in Europe

For every couple, the woman is still doing the majority of the housework and of course the mental load.  It doesn’t seem materially different from my couple friends here, including in flyover cities.

But what IS different is how they manage their finances.  Every single couple has separate finances.  Personally it seems like a rotten deal to be completely on your own financially AND have to do most of the housework/ running the household.

The other difference is that the women seem 100% expected to return to work after maternity leave.  The maternity leaves are generous and from the government, but of course they have to provide maternity leave if most women are on their own financially.

My point is that so many people, especially on this board, seem to look up to European lifestyles and cultures and I’m not so sure it’s in general that much better for women.

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