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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have given things, sometimes valuable, to family members and specifically said, "If you ever decide you don't want this for any reason please give it back to me." That covers it. If I don't say that, I don't expect it to happen. Ignore, or explain the concept to her and then ignore.[/quote] My mom and MIL do this with me and I really wish they wouldn’t. It is a lend, not a gift, in this case. Which is fine! But acknowledge it as a lent item. My mom and MIL both care deeply about things - antiques, family heirlooms, physical books. I don’t. And I end up forgetting who gave me what, and I break things and throw them away and get tired of the clutter and donate them. And that makes my mom and MIL really sad. It ALSO makes them sad when I turn down a “gift.” So I can disappoint them now by turning down a gift, or later when I get rid of it. I’ve chosen disappointing them now, mostly.[/quote]
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