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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know of several (five) students who got into their first-choice school they'd been aiming for for years, only to drop out and come home at the end of the first year. For some, it was academic troubles, for others it was disappointment in the culture/community/vibe. It's almost as if the school couldn't possibly live up to the expectations they had. In each case it was very traumatic experience or the kids and, frankly, the family who had focused for years on that school as the goal and then it didn't work out.

My daughter is still a freshman, but has her eyes on a particular school and is becoming increasingly fixated on it. I do think she can get in. Any advice on how we can we prevent this sort of flame out if she does attend?[/quote]

The issue is that at that age they believe they are going to transplant the entire life they know right now to the new place and all the people will be just like at home and will think like the people at home and will act like the people at home. Then they get there and realize that no, it isn't just going to be their hometown in a different spot. It is going to be different. They will have to adapt and it will be hard.

And for a lot of those kids they spent years being in a very safe bubble where they could count on the same people to have the same reactions.  Kids who have grown up their whole lives in one area and in spot are the most at risk for this. And their parents should do better about guiding them to select schools that will really work for them and that might mean passing up some highly ranked school elsewhere and picking one closer to home.[/quote]

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