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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's generational and cultural. I'm from the UK and my MIL was always horribly [b]overbearing in terms of food, constantly offering something,[/b] a meal, a chocolate, a yogurt, a piece of fruit. Endless. To the point of absolute farce.

I think in some ways it's for lack of knowing how else to contribute, if that makes sense? And wanting to be welcoming but to the point it becomes almost psychotic.

It needs to be openly addressed by your DH. He should ask her about it, find out what is going on, maybe make gentle suggestions that these aren't your expectations of her and how sometimes it's great to eat a meal at her house but other times she should come to you.

But you can't let it keep happening. [/quote]

This reminded me of my great aunt, long gone now. Not only were we fed, but we had to take home containers of food, a ham sandwich for the road, etc. I was so annoyed about it at the time, but it's just funny in retrospect. Her food was very good, except for the things I was just picky about. She would say, "I have to teach you how to properly entertain, because I know your mother can't do it." Hahaha!!

I think some of these older people were [b]raised when food wasn't so crazily abundant,[/b] and that influenced their manners. It would always be a treat to have dinner served to you, and it was the woman's place to make that happen. All kinds of self-worth tied up in being a wonderful host(ess).

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This part is completely true with my MIL. Raised in the depression, on a rural farm, and food was scarce and it was a family matter. She is a good cook, and I do enjoy her meals. She would rather cook than eat out (it's better for you) and just can't handle waste of food. 
Sounds like your MIL may have similar issues. Just wants to take care of people one of the only ways she feels like she can at this age. [/quote]

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