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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why should he work if you won’t?[/quote]

OP here - my view is, why should I do everything I do now plus a job? I would be insane to agree to that. He’s not going to magically do half. [/quote]

I think you are 100% right here. And probably very honest communication is the key. The agreement up to this point, whether it's been explicit or not, is that you handle everything on the home front and his job is accommodated in order to provide a good income. He wants that to change and that's not wrong, but it's also not entirely his decision.

What was the agreement between the two of you when your child was born as far as you not working and for how long?

I agree with others that you should start having him take over 50/50 duties before you even find a job and see how it goes. It might not last long when there's no clean underwear in his drawer or he has to cut a meeting short because of school pickup or whatever.

One thing you don't mention is what type of work he expects you to go back to? Were you some hard charger at Deloitte and he thinks you're going back to that. Or were you a dental hygienist with pretty set hours and salary.

And what's the point of you going back to work from his perspective? If it's that he's resentful that he has a full-time job and you don't that's not a reason. Neither of you got to this point completely on your own.[/quote]

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