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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because it's not about you.  JFC.[/quote]

This is why I am suicidal (NP). Why is it NEVER about me? Why is it always about some else? Why isn't SOMEONE telling THEM it's not about them?[/quote]

You go ahead and tell someone who recently lost a parent or a spouse that you're really hurt that they aren't prioritizing answering your calls and texts.  OP is asking about a very specific situation -- she's not asking these people for support for a serious problem she has.  She's upset that they aren't sufficiently grateful for her kindness and aren't sufficiently responsive to her messages.  She's making it about her and how much attention these people are supposed to pay her (implying that they owe her something because she arranged for meals or gift cards or whatever).  But they are grieving, and are likely dealing with big emotions and logistical issues, and are likely falling behind on lots of social things.  It's unlikely that it has much to do with OP.

The alternative explanation is that OP, while helpful, is overbearing in some way, or does too much and makes people uncomfortable.  There are people who genuinely mean well, but end up being needy or emotionally demanding in some way.  I have no idea whether that's true for OP or not, and I see no reason to speculate. [/quote]

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