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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what kind of therapy has she been doing?  I just learned in DBT family therapy today that we are supposed to enforce serious consequences if DC threatens to self-harm.  That is manipulative and dangerous behavior that shouldn’t be reinforced.  [b]True urges to self-harm should be brought to parents in advance of DC taking action so we can help them use their self-regulation skills before it escalates[/b].  Have you looked into DBT?  It might be a good time to transition to it now that you’re between therapists.  [/quote]

OP here, well that's the tricky part. On paper it sounds like she was threatening. But as she explained later she was in fact just trying to let me know why she was taking some time to calm down, because she correctly remembered I had already told her a long time ago that if she has such feelings she needs to tell me in advance.  And so she did The feeling passed. She calmed down. It only took about 20 minutes.

She later comes to me completely calmed down and tells me a slew of very specific self reflective things.  I asked her if she considered a problem that after doing so well for so long that a perceived slight would cause her to feel so bad. She explained some specifics and said she was working on them.

I had already given her very serious consequences for meltdowns and expressions of wanting to self harm. I let her know if she cant pull it in she will end up in the ER and I have no control over what happens once she is in the system.  It seemed to make her understand that simply saying she feels one way or another is not sufficient. Of course all this was before I understood the full scope of her feelings. All that is now very different thanks to treatment and many many many conversations.

To answer your question: the "type" of therapy she received was straight talk therapy.  It seemed to at least get her used to talking to someone.[/quote]

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