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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]13yo DC has told me that they are gay.  I am of course supportive. Gave them a hug and[b] told them that I love them no matter what[/b].  I guess my question is, is this a typical age when people know one way are the other? I asked DC when they had an inkling, and they said around 4th grade.

It’s only been a week and nothing has changed in our relationship, but I’d love some thoughts/advice on how to navigate this.  At the moment, they are at a progressive private middle school where there are a number of LGBTQ+ families and students, but I’m a little worried about the transition to a large public high school next year.  Thanks for any advice![/quote]

Uugh.  Think about that, OP.  [/quote]

Np. Pp can you explain why you highlight and said what you said?[/quote]

DP here. My DS is gay. I'm going to guess that the PP who highlighted the sentence believes that in saying "no matter what," the parent is implying that there is something wrong with being gay.

IMO, that's not true. It's fine to say "no matter what." Because regardless whether as a parent you're totally okay with it, [b]the child might be nervous - not just about your relationship with your child but about all of their relationships. In saying "no matter what," you are also saying that you will be there for them no matter what the obstacles are. Also, you are saying that if, for whatever reason, they later wonder if they're bi or trans or whatever, you'll still be there, no matter what.[/b][/quote]

Op here.  Thank you for this.  It was what I implied. DC was visibly nervous when telling me, and was visibly relieved when I said that I loved them no matter what-it doesn’t matter if they’re gay/straight/bi/trans, whatever. My child is my child and I love them and will do everything I can to help and support them in any way they need.[/quote]

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