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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How does she appear to want to be a social climber?

DS has a friend like this. She wanted to travel together, do coffee, date night, take my kid to trips with her family, etc.

I answer her late. I have 3 kids and she only has 1 so I hide behind my other kids. I drop off and pick up only. I don’t really ever invite them over or invite them on outings. I have done camps together and she will offer to have my kid play with hers after.

To be fair, I don’t invite others over often either so it isn’t like I am specifically not inviting just her kid.[/quote]

We were at the pool so our kids could play together. She was doing something for her younger kid that was going to be a few minutes. I said I’d watch our boys until she was done. 20-30 mins later I’m wondering where she is since her younger kid has wandered over. I found her sitting with another group of women who obviously are close friends. And the feeling I got was she felt this was a “better” group of friends.

She’s made comments to me that she somehow thinks I have higher social standing. I don’t and it’s not like this neighborhood is into social standing at all.

And she’s teased me many times about one of my quirks. I look at her and the people around us look at her like “what are you doing?”. But she keeps doing it. And I can’t tell if she is socially awkward or trying to neg me.

And I don’t know why I’m a B just because I know she is not my people. There are a couple of Mom’s I’ve clicked with that I’m hoping will turn into friendships. There are others that I’m friendly with but we’ll never hang out unless it’s some kid related event. And I’m sure they feel the same way about me. Where I’m having issues here is that I want to keep her in the friendly zone, but she wants to be close friends. [/quote]

Your overanalysis about the pool is odd. We go to the pool often. You walk around and talk to people you know. This is normal pool behavior.

I have no idea what the social standing is at the pool. My kids used to do swim team and there were the swim team moms. I didn’t particularly want to be part of this group. My kids were not that into it. My kids now play tennis at the same pool and tennis club. Some days I go to the pool and sit alone. Other times I go with a friend and May sit with another group I know. Are you really keeping tabs on how a person socializes at the pool?

It is totally fine not wanting to be close friends with a person but it doesn’t even seem like this person wants to be that close.[/quote]

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