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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yep as others said, you're insecure.  Gain more genuine confidence in yourself, your choices, and your place in life and it'll stop.

I think you worried the other mother would ask why, isn't your kid toilet trained, and why ISN'T your kid toilet trained? You need to own this stuff. [/quote]

This is why moms are defensive and insecure! Potty training was my big trigger for this because I felt constant judgment from other parents about it. And it’s frustrating because in my case, I really didn’t know why. We worked at it for a long time (like over a year) and It just didn’t click until one day it started to. And then it was still another 6 months of working at it before I felt we were really there.

See, here I am being defensive and over explaining, but it’s because people say stuff like the above all the time. Like it’s a personal moral failing instead of just one aspect of parenting that I’m just not that strong in. I’m happy to admit potty training was hard for me and I’m so glad it’s over, but it’s really annoying when people want to use that as an indictment if my parenting as a whole.

Every parent is strong in some things and weak in others, I promise. A lot of the people who used to judge and give me grief over potty training now pay me compliments in other areas. It’s ok to be an imperfect parent.[/quote]

Dp. You just proved the PP’s point perfectly, as the questions she posed were the ones she says YOU run through YOUR head that make you instantly defensive. PP Didn’t actually ask these to anyone.[/quote]

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