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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At some point in your marriage you have to decide do I have complete trust in my spouse or not. Yes, you can be wrong but not having complete trust can just eat at you leading you to post on DCUM. My husband has a female tennis friend who is very attractive and they compete in mixed events that require travel. He’s never given me any reason to believe that they are anything more than just sports buddies. [/quote]

Certainly people should be able to trust their spouses, but people do cheat, and our norms/customs reflect that.

A married woman going on vacation without her husband but with a single guy is weird.

The toddler makes it a bit less weird, but what are they going to be doing on this vacation? 
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Eh I don’t think so. [b]People can be good friends even attracted to one another and not act on it. Why do people think every attraction or interest must be acted on?[[/b]/quote]

+1 to the bold above. People on these boards have a strong tendency always, always to assume anyone and everyone will cheat if there is the slightest opportunity to cheat. But PP is right: People can be friends (even attracted) and not have to act on it. Some people really do have friendships that involve their brains and not their genitals.

As for the person above that, asking suspiciously, "What are they going to be doing on this vacation?," cute way to imply that the only activity they're likely to do is have sex. Do you have so very little imagination that you can't think of things two friends-since-childhood could talk about and do while together, other than get the toddler to nap and then jump into a bed themselves? it's pretty immature to assume that two adults cannot come up with things to do besides have sex.

OP could not have chosen a worse board or site for this issue. Everyone here, except for a very few of us, always assumes cheating will go on. I pity OP's wife if he's this suspicious of her, or if he's so cowed by what others will think that he lets it make him suspicious of her. 
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