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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]While I am very happy to have my two kids there are times when I think about what if we had only had one. It's a different family dynamic and I think about the energy my husband and I had when we just had our first child. And how in love with her we were.

That is not to say I regret the second in any way or that we weren't in love with her, but it was a rough pregnancy, premature birth, NICU stay, and a bunch of other stuff that makes a long story, but suffice it to say it changes the dynamic.

[b]Funnily enough, even though I had never really thought about a third, when the second was about a year old I remember mourning that we wouldn't have another[/b].

I think the best we can do is make the most of what we have been given and work to build solid relationships and raise good adults.[/quote]

I’m an Only that only wanted an Only. And we struggled for 5 years and much $$$. So I was so happy just having one. Then around 18m Baby Fever hit me HARD!! And for about a year my hormones made me want another kid. Even though my entire life I only wanted one kid. And our life and finances were perfect with an only child. Having another would’ve been a horrible idea. But my hormones didn’t get that memo. And if I didn’t logically know that one kid was it for me, then I’d probably seriously consider trying for another. So grateful I realized it was hormones and that after a year the urge passed. Having another kid would’ve been the worst thing for our family. [/quote]

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