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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you all for your answers.
My DH and his friend are both attorneys, DH is high up in-house and his friend built his own practice.[/quote]

Money is pointless here. Seems like both your DH and his friend have plenty of money. No one is going to notice $300 - $400, in other words, it's not a meaningful gift. Frankly, I'd feel a bit offended, not at the sum involved but the laziness.

Instead of $400 cash, give a $400 bottle of wine. Or something ephemeral and luxurious. Or see if you can get a very nice dinner fully paid for (something that'd normally cost $400 for two people, including wine pairing). Something that is a bit more thoughtful then gee, another check or envelope of cash. If someone gave me a check or cash for that amount, it'd probably sit around for months before being deposited given I rarely go to the bank in person nor use cash to pay for things.

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What is “plenty of money”?
OP here. While we are ok, we don’t have “plenty of money” and I never tried $400 bottle of wine. Both my DH and his friend from lower middle class background and both are solid middle class. 
He gave us $300 for our wedding 10 years ago and we were very happy about the money. We used all the cash gifts to pay for a wonderful honeymoon in Hawaii.
Also his parents are both dead and he is paying for a wedding. His bride is of a lower income.
I don’t know what world this forum lives in to consider attorneys some spoiled brats. We are not like that.[/quote]

Then why are you asking this question?

You came on here soliciting advice and you got advice and now you're complaining people are calling your husband a spoiled brat (hint, no one did).

I agree that cash gifts are lazy gifts for people who already have some money. You indicated your husband is senior in-house and his friend started his own law practice. Without more information that suggests both men are solidly comfortably off. In my circle, a cash gift would be meh. Because we don't need the cash, per se, and it's not a thoughtful gift. I wouldn't mind not getting any gift whatsoever, just your presence as a good friend is all I'd want. There are many successful lawyers and professionals in our social set, and we're all in our early 40s, and at these occasions we tend to give a special gift like a very nice bottle of wine if we know the person or couple enjoys wine. Or treat them to a very nice dinner. We don't give cash.

Now you tell us you had received $300 in cash from this person at your wedding some years ago. Then I suppose it's fair for you to do the same and gift them $300 to $400 in cash. Call it $350 and a the deed is done. [/quote]

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