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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Forward the text to your DH, add your MIL to it and say, do you want to respond to your mother’s concerns?[/quote]

Do this. Don't engage beyond that but [b]pay close attention to how your husband responds.[/b][/quote]

:roll:

If she does as you both suggest, she's basically testing her DH, as much as, if not more than, letting MIL know this won't fly.

Why should OP set her DH up like that?

He did as she asked and he inquired about the vaccinations. He didn't refuse, argue, accuse her of trying to undermine the trip, at least not that she's said.

"Pay attention to how your husband responds" translates to "See if he has your back, and he'll HAVE to respond, and you'll see where he stands, ha!" What a jerk move toward the DH. If OP has come back and said her DH was a a$$ about it to her, that's different but I haven't seen that here.

If she AND  her DH together agree, she could forward to DH with MIL added and he can append his reply. But advising her to blindside her DH, when he did as she asked, is out of line. Unless OP wants to anger her DH, in which case, blindsiding him and passive-aggressively testing his allegiance to her is a great way to go. [/quote]

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