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[quote=Anonymous]Op, I have an eerily similar story to yours.

I ended up choosing estrangement from my mother (though in my case, my mom knew about the abuse in real time and actually turned a blind eye or even did things to make it easier to happen like leaving me alone with my stepdad, though the abuse was less clear-more like touching/holding/snuggling/rubbing kinds of things, no actual penetration).

My mother has never met my children. I have no contact with her. After many years, I shared the truth of the abuse with my siblings because they had their own children and I felt obligated to make sure they knew so they could protect them.

It was the greatest sorrow of my life when my kids were really little, I yearned for my mother, but has gotten much easier. My kids are now 5 and 3 and I am 98% ok with things as they are.

Lots of therapy and no contact.

Also, I’ve built a network of people who adore my children. I’ve embraced the limited family that I have that is loving (and it’s very few people). We have wonderful nannies who are recent immigrants and our families have kind of adopted each other. Our nanny’s mother is an honorary grandma to my kids.

My kids are madly loved and adored by so many people, it makes it matter less that they don’t have a real grandma (MIL is dead).

I feel like a success. I have succeeded in protecting my kids from this garbage and that is the only thing that matters. The things I went through will never happen to my kids. [/quote]

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