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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I'm the OP of the temporary guardianship thread. I don't think the example you offer is an appropriate analogy to my thread. Suggesting a party be catered and offering reasons why it might be better is still within the topic of celebrating a 40th birthday party with food and the OP didn't request responders stick to restaurants. On my thread, I would have been fine with responses suggesting alternatives to temporary guardianship other than "don't do it" and a number of responses weren't 'benign'. Even the title of this thread misconstrues my post, my intention was not to "take custody", my intention is to offer to be "temporary guardian". Big difference. I would have been receptive to suggestions or alternatives that would have given my friend more options than what she has right now, things that I might not have thought of. None were offered and I felt the thread was degenerating, the helpful responders were being drowned out by the unhelpful ones so I asked Jeff to intervene. If the OP from the 40th birthday party had come back and said her house was too small to have anything and wanted only restaurant options yet people still insisted on talking about catering, I think it would be appropriate for the Jeff to intervene. It boils down to "is this thread helpful to the OP?".[/quote]

I think what you are failing to understand is that several of us who post regularly don't think your judgment about what is valuable or worthy of posting is trustworthy. Many of us think your professed ownership of the thread and all its contents is damaging to the value of the topic to the whole community. You only value very specific responses to your question. Which is fine...but selfish to the rest of the community who value the contributions of the critical thinking posters who questioned your base assumptions.

Now, it is true that you appealed to the moderator and he apparently agreed with you and you are now here, and on at least one other thread, championing him and your particular view that you, as the OP, should have the ultimate say in what is useful on "your" thread. I said in another thread and I will say it here. I think Jeff was wrong (even to delete a single post) and that he could very well grow to regret giving individual users such power over the content of a thread. That said, I respect him and the work he does here and will follow his rules. I'm posting now just because I'm really tired of your self righteous defense of something that is, at best, a murky area of internet etiquette.

Oh. BTW, OP of the guardianship thread, tell me this. If you are being intellectually honest and really only wanted to know *how* to do something...why did you even post it on the board? Clearly, you need a lawyer to really help you with the process and that lawyer would surely have your answer. Even you acknowledge needing to contact a lawyer. Why post it here in the first place? I suspect you did want more than the direct answer, you just didn't like what you got.

I said it on another thread and I'll say it here (in case you missed it). If someone starts a thread asking how to make an explosive device, I'm going to ask whether they should be making an explosive device. I don't think that is remotely off topic.

(I won't be posting about this topic again, so feel free to have the last word.)[/quote]

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