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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. What’s the point of evidence gathering — in the event of divorce/custody battles? I’m in a no-fault state so doesn’t that mean adultery/infidelity doesn’t factor in? Honestly even discussing divorce turns my stomach. This sucks.[/quote]

I'm the "real question?" PP.   Divorced myself after cheating, in a no-fault state.  With a kid.  Former spouse is a pit bull tenacious and skilled lawyer.

The reason you PRIVATELY build an air tight case with irrefutable evidence is that you want to be swift, with shock and awe, when you finally confront them.  You want to leave no room for alternative reasonable explanations that they can exploit.

Once you're 97% sure they're cheating, you want to be able to crush them with evidence and allow for no plausible claims of denial.   Why:  that gets that topic out of the way, so you can move on to the very, very, very important topic of, "What are we going to do now?"   If you keep returning to bull$!t conversations of 'it was just emotional' or 'we stayed at different hotels and you can't prove we didn't!' .... you'll never move forward.

And take if from me, that kind of gaslighting will make you feel worse than you already do right now.

So to recap:  crush. them. with. incontrovertible evidence.   Has nothing to do with alimony or custody.[/quote]

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