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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Didn't you already ask this? Not trying to be snide but wondering what changed?[/quote]
Op here. Nothing has changed. I don’t have money to give them a lump sum of 30-60k in dollars that they need to pay off their back rent from the past year, my little sisters school fees and pack up to leave.

I have been paying them about 1k a month which is about half my paycheck. My two sisters who live with my parents finally are bringing in some income, but again, at entry level salaries, they don’t make that much and both are contributing [b]as much as they can/want to[/b].

Together the three of us seem to just barely cover some of their current rent and food.

Meanwhile my father is deep in depression and is humiliated. He’s been asking the community there for money and no one wants to help. They can’t leave the expensive apartment until the back rent is paid off. Thus they can’t leave the country. [/quote]

Ok, there's no "want to" here.  Tell your sisters they will pay as much as they absolutely can.  They aren't kids anymore and this is what families do in a crisis.

Tell us again why your mom doesn't have a job?[/quote]

My mom has never worked a day in her life and can’t read or write :( she wants to work but no one would hire her. [/quote]

Ok, that's the real reason.  Not that she didn't go to college.  It still seems like she's not willing to do the kind of work that people who can't read or write can get hired for.  But whatever.

Real talk, OP: You can go super-frugal on your end and get a second job so that you can send them more money to attack the debt.  You can give your sisters a big reality check and make it clear to them that you are the only person standing between them and homelessness/jail so they better do what you say.  And you can take out a low-interest loan and then keep rolling it onto different 0% introductory credit cards.  Or you can keep posting here, reject all the advice people give you, and keep on giving them money while they get more and more in debt.  Up to you. [/quote]

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