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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this, OP. I would be heartbroken too, but it may prove less stressful to draw a hard line (like no unvaccinated adults near the baby) than play games with quarantine when the person in question has already shown poor judgment about what a quarantine would look like (how were they realistically expecting to quarantine when traveling?)

I was always very close with my mom, and was stunned when she proved to be almost no help after my first baby was born. The baby had colic, I had PPA/PPD, and when I’d call her sobbing with a screaming baby in the background she’d yell at me to just send him to her to raise if I couldn’t handle it. Three years later and that still stings. Can you hire someone to help you, even a few hours a week? You can’t change your mom, but a regular break might ease some of the stress you’re dealing with.

Many hugs and best wishes to you — your baby is lucky to have you.[/quote]

OP here. The sad thing is my mom will constantly want to have video calls, make recordings for the baby, and my dad will just sit to the side looking irritated. I know my mom cares about the baby, and she'll constantly send gifts, ask for photos, but it's all virtual. I was telling my husband if I had to do one more zoom call with the baby, I was going to lose my mind.[/quote]

OP have you considered going even further—no vaccine no zooms no contact, etc.? Your infant isn’t getting anything out of zooming with his grandma and right now, she’s getting exactly what she wants while putting your family Literally at risk of death and otherwise making the entire family totally miserable. Maybe this would Push her to really think. Or at least push your dad to get her there. My mom
Is bipolar. For our safety and that of my baby’s the only thing that ever worked to this end was cutting her off until she got help. The zero contact with us finally pushed my dad enough to push my mom. They see each
Other every day after all. And I echo the others posting here. Im just so sorry.[/quote]

You still send pictures and talk.  That is absurd.  If mom would quarantine for two weeks and do two negative tests it would be a lot safer.[/quote]

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