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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. But you can leave and let H deal with this circus. I’d divide my day between working outside at Starbucks or whatever coffee shop, working outside at a restaurant of my choice for a leisurely lunch, and perhaps from a park for the remainder of the afternoon. Rinse and repeat.

This is precisely why we have declined to have the ILs come “watch” the children this summer. Our guest room doubles as our office and the person not using that space uses the dining room table, which is open to the entire first floor. Short of one of us working from our bedroom and the other camping out to work in one of the kids’ rooms, guests are just not a possibility this summer since it would mean giving up our one office space and trying to hide from 4 additional people in the house. Thanks, no thanks. The kids will go to camp. Happy (though not really) to have you “vacation” at our house once our offices are open. Also, the idea of coming to the home of two working parents with young kids and adding to that load, especially during this time is just baffling to me, always has been since the first time my ILs announced they loved “vacationing” at our house. 
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Well done, PP, and you have it down. OP, how old are the kids? The ILs can't be too elderly if MIL is still working. And if she's working, maybe she shouldn't offer to "help".

In my first year of widowhood, my MIL flew cross country to help me during a rough patch. She rented her own car at the airport 100 miles away and got herself to our house with no fanfare. Rental car had booster and babyseat. She put her purse down and was ready to assist. We had a family dinner, she took notes on legal pad and had her calendar out. Some of this stuff she already knew, but figured out five year old had nature camp 3 days a week, baby was in the middle of potty training, teen was finishing summer school and had activities. We went for ice cream and to show where highschool, camp, and main grocery store were. I was up to my neck in work and MIL just took over. Whipped the house into shape, nice meal every night, including vegetarian dinner for teen. Baby potty trained over her visit, spices alphabetized.

I fully get I am bragging, but it was like Mary Poppins showed up. And at the very least when anyone promises to help, they should not create more work for anyone - they need to take a load off. Whether it's to help with young kids, assisting with someone going through a medical crisis - whatever.[/quote]

What an amazing MIL you have. Having just watched my mom deal with the untimely death of an adult child, I can say your MIL must have had tremendous emotional strength to be grieving and helpful at the same time. [/quote]

+1  What a gift, I can't imagine having this kind of loving help and support even in the midst of a terrible crisis. How wonderful that you two have each other.[/quote]

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