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[quote=Anonymous]OP - you are not being unreasonable AT ALL. My DH and I went through this same whole thing although he was not being as quite as difficult as yours. I felt like it was easier to reason with him when we stepped away from the situation, came back and discussed it rationally. Both of your emotions are on high.

I think you should set up a time to talk to him about this in advance, so you both have time to think about your own points of view and try to stay calm. Then you can explain that you simply are not comfortable. I would focus more on the privacy issues (walking around topless,  passing huge blood clots, etc) - at least for me those seemed to make more of a difference to my DH than "but I'm more comfortable around my mom!".

I would ultimately shoot for some kind of agreement where they are wlecome to come IF they stay in a hotel and limit visiting hours to 2 hours per day. I would not give in any more than that. If necessary, get your doctor involved? Maybe DH just doesn't understand what it's like after birth. Another last resort could be calling his mom yourself and very kindly just sharing how you feel with her. I do not have a particularly close relationship with DH's parents, but they are good people, and if it had come to this I would have called them up myself. I cannot imagine that any woman who is a decent person would deny you your right to privacy. [/quote]

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