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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]M[b]ost divorces between hetero couples are initiated by the woman. And men are much more likely to remarry quickly.[/b]

Y’all, they are feeling rejected and want to feel wanted again. It’s very basic psychology. Women don’t rush into remarriage because they find divorce itself to be self-affirming. Men NEED remarriage for their bruised egos.

Don’t do it. Find someone e who wants to be with you for you, not someone who is running away from their feelings of hurt and rejection into the arms of the first acceptable alternative. And definitely don’t have kids with with him right away! Think.[/quote]

Re: the bold, please back that up with real sources and numbers. Not that I don't believe you but those are big, sweeping statements made as if they're gospel and without some form of statistics to back them up, they're just anecdotes, not facts. [/quote]

Not PP, but these are easy to find because they are so commonly cited:

A 2015 study found 69% of divorces are initiated by women: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2015/08/27/why-women-are-more-likely-to-initiate-divorce/

It's hard to quantify "quickly" with regards to remarriage, but men have always been more likely to remarry than women, period: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2014/11/14/chapter-2-the-demographics-of-remarriage/

Though the gender gap on remarriage is closing. I like to think it's closing because the stigma of being a divorced woman might be diminishing? Also maybe the increase in true joint custody agreements. When divorce became more common due to the advent of no fault divorce laws, women were much more likely to wind up with full custody of the children, and there was a huge stigma around being a divorced single mom. It definitely still exists, but there is some indication it might not be as bad as it once was. Also, since people wait longer to have kids now, there may be more divorces without kids, which could also help a lot.[/quote]

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