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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, seeing you sad and upset has likely been unsettling to them. I suspect they are trying to act as normal as possible because they don't know what to do and want their old mom, the rock and who has an answer to everything, back.

You need to step aside and explain it to them. "Guys, I know I've been upset lately because Grandpa is so sick and he's going to die in the next few weeks. It's really hard for me and so I know it's also meant some changes to our house. You can help by giving me a hug occasionally and just being a little more responsible around the house. That would really be comforting to me and I would really appreciate it. Likewise, if you are sad about grandpa, let's talk about it too. This is hard on all of us."[/quote]

This is good. I remember as a (typically self-involved) teenager having my mom heading out the door to visit a dying friend. She told me where she was going and said, "And when I get home, I will be sad."

Yes, I needed to be told. Once I knew, I also knew to give her a hug and make her a cup of tea when she got home, then either stay so she could talk while she drank it or leave her alone to read a novel and recover. [/quote]

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