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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, except I have even more reason not to divorce (administrative reasons, on top of financial reasons, on top of the fact that my husband can be abusive towards our son and I don't want to share custody).

He's lost most of my respect and love. I do feel some affection towards him occasionally when he acts like a decent human being, and when he makes me laugh, but I recognize that it's not enough for a husband and wife relationship. I rely on outside friendships to keep me emotionally balanced.[/quote]

Thank you so much for posting. What is your game plan? Carry on til the kids are 18 years old? I hear all this advice on "would you want your mom/sister/bestfriend in a relationship like yours?" but I also want to hear the "what's the alternative?" It's not like divorce ends our problems. I worry it will magnify it. 
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My game plan is to continue long-term: until either my kids are independent (youngest is in middle school), or administratively, I have more options (right now my visa is dependent on his, so I am essentially a prisoner). I also know he's doing his best to control all finances, and if we divorce now he stands an excellent chance of hiding overseas accounts. I've been working for years on getting joint accounts, and linking our American accounts to our overseas accounts, etc, to have a better chance of getting everything acknowledged as common marital assets should the need arise. Complex situation indeed, so right now I'm focusing on living as happy a life as I can.[/quote]

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