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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in the same position, OP. Before I had kids, I didn't have a firm idea about how many - I just defaulted to two because I knew I didn't want an only, but I also know kids are expensive and hard work so I didn't want to overshoot it either.

Then I had my first, and it was all pretty amazing and so I started to think about three. I figured I'd get to two first and see if I still felt the same.

Well, we ended up having a really difficult time getting pregnant with two but we finally did, DD was born and it was still wonderful but also of course pretty hard (pandemic did NOT help, of course).

Another couple years have gone by and now it's time to commit or move on WRT a third. During the long period of secondary infertility, I almost had to come to terms with only having one child, so a third pretty much dropped off my radar. I also got sick recently and a pregnancy at this point could potentially set me back again healthwise, but it also might be fine.

Despite all that, and that our house is small, daycare is $$$, and god do I want to get some baby stuff out of my house ....I still kind of want to go for it. Maybe it's because I know it's such a long shot fertility wise. I imagine we'll just stop prevention and if anything happens in the next year, well there you have it. And if not, I'll gleefully start clearing baby gear out of my tiny attic.[/quote]

You should go for it if you feel this way, but let me be the cautionary tale from above, who felt it was a similar long shot (virtual impossibility, as I'd been told) who ended up pregnant.  Defaulting to thinking you'd be ok with it because it probably won't happen is risky unless you're sure you'd be ok with it![/quote]

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