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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I so relate OP. I had to get therapy to learn to detach. My mother sucked me dry of every ounce of empathy I had and EVERY thing I did for her got erased. I did in my health and sanity helping her and was guilt tripped to the point I was enraged. She even called ME selfish. That was it. I now see her as a pathetic self centered person who I realize has always been a narcissist. I do what I can while maintain my sanity. When she complains I change the subject or leave. I have nothing left for her and she will never get it because she didn't do much for her own parents (though she rewrote history on that one).[/quote]

I could have written this exact same post regarding my mom. [/quote]

Same here. My mom hates where she lives - and she's in independent living. When I see her now, she sees every opportunity to pick a fight, belittle me or say something hateful. She tells me how much she hates her life. She can seem to find no joy.

People who try to make you feel guilty should count themselves lucky not to have a parent like this. I think my mom has always had an undiagnosed mental disorder and in her old age, it is really revealing itself.

For me, I have to detach. I will not allow myself to take her verbal abuse. It's sad because she could choose happiness but she'd rather wallow in self pity. [/quote]

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