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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]i'm a guy and can tell you most men do not find muscular women attractive
your DH fell in love and married you when you were transitioning from a bit of a chubster to muscular so at the time you probably looked nice .. average to slim? 
over the years you have built up muscles
he has a right not to feel physical attraction to that
you have a right to continue your muscle build up

both of you should probably break up/divorce and find happiness ... no harm in that[/quote]

OP here. I am far from looking like a bodybuilder and in regular clothes I just look thin. You can see the pump right after I worked out but as I said I am no Incredible Hulk. I just look fit and keep getting compliments from both men and women. The fact that this is not my husband’s preference does not give him the right to be an ass about it. I was also hoping that he married me for more than my looks and I don’t see how me starting to look a bit different should be grounds for divorce. Would you be ok if I came here to complain my husband is getting bald, has less muscle and a bigger belly than when I married him so I am thinking of divorce because, as most women, I prefer men to have hair and be really fit? He changed too and I am not giving him sh*t for that. I thought marriage was supposed to be also about being able to grow together and supporting each other in the journeys we choose and particularly if the choices are toward the better. There are countless benefits from women lifting weights, both mental and physical, and it is really frustrating to me that the person closest to me is not willing to focus on those and appreciate that I am feeling much better about myself than when I was the chubster he met. [/quote]

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