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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Those of you who are suggesting the OP is trying to get away with not having her child receive any discipline should be ashamed of yourselves.  What responsible parent would want that for their child?  Why not extend the benefit of the doubt here and assume the question was asked in good faith?

12:31 again.  Here's an example of why the OP's question and point are to be taken very, VERY seriously:

[i]In Mercer County, Kentucky, nine year old Chris Baker, an Autistic student, was told by his special education aide to climb inside a bag intended for therapeutic purposes as a punishment to "control his autistic behavior" on 14 December 2011. He was placed in the bag with the drawstring tightened and left in the hallway in the school. When his mother, Sandra Baker, was called to the school to get her son, she demanded that he be removed from the bag right away. The teacher struggled to undo the drawstring, and Chris emerged sweaty and non-communicative. According to the teacher, this had been done several times over the last year, but Sandra didn't know until this latest incident.

OP asked about discipline.  This is abuse.  Not the same thing.[/quote]

Immediate PP. Why are you on the SN forum?  The OP and these posters are right to realize that the line between discipline and abuse can be especially tightly drawn with SN kids. My highly verbal but highly anxious SN kid has been verbally, psychologically, and finally physically abused by educators who supposedly should have known better. DC never told us about any of it. Some of it I witnessed myself (For ex, screaming in the face during a panic attack during which 5-y-o DC was on the floor in fetal position crying). Teacher telling DC she was "tired of him" and to "leave.". They found DC 20 minutes later crying in the hallway. Aides making fun of tics calling names.  Banishing DC from the classroom to sit in an unventilated hallway for a week.  Etc etc until finally DC was a victim of multiple days of physical and verbal abuse that resulted in PTSD that has taken months to crawl out of.  No one has ever gotten in trouble for these fine examples of "discipline.". The last incident was witnessed and DC was questioned by us which is the only reason we found out. At that point DC was 9.

Of course we want our children held to a standard that is appropriate and reachable. I don't want to produce a monster. At the same time, my autistic kid can't handle the same kinds of things other kids can. If they are going to promise DC a FAPE, it needs to be appropriate for DC's needs. If the caFeteria noise and smells are overwhelming and an autistic meltdown occurs, screaming in a Kindergartner's crying face is not going to help anything.

Anyway, OP, we Have a great aide and other behavior support, a very structured day, sensory diet, a system of work and then reward (for ex., getting to write a math test for aide to take during lunch bc DC doesn't eat in cafeteria anymore so they play games during lunch).  Agree with suggestion to get an FBA and a BIP in place. The key is that people have to know YOUR kid to know how hard to push and whereto put in some accommodations. My kid works really hard and produces around an equal amount as the other kids. With accommodations such as not being exposed to the chaos (to DC) of the cafeteria, DC's level of behavior is generally the same as most other kids'. if it is clear that a day is setting up to go badly, work is simply done away from the other kids so that a meltdown can be avoided or at least lessened.

Frankly my kid is watched more carefully and more closely "disciplined" than the NT kids. I see all sorts of benign but rough behaviors that my kid wouldn't do bc they would be overwhelming and therefore we don't even go there.

OP, all displine should be about earning privileges, not having them taken away. There should be clear cause and effect. In general I'm anti taking away recess, but maybe it needs to be done sometimes when recess behavior is inappropriate. You have to make sure everyone understands the diagnosis and how it manifests yourself. I trusted that to the school system for too long and that was stupid of me. Any adult in the school can end up in a position to inappropriateLy discipline your child so you have to make sure they all understand what to do (even if it's just do nothing and yell for help). School has largely a nightmare for our family, but now that I have stopped trying to be polite and docile, it's gotten a lot better. My kid's attorney helps a whole lot too![/quote]

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