Reply to “Calm down” is it inappropriate?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "“Calm down” is it inappropriate? "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]LOL I couldn’t wait to open this because I just knew it would be a cascade of half baked feminist therapy speak peppered with the word “gaslighting”. Not disappointed!

There are times when adults might lose their temper or sense of perspective. There is nothing wrong with a loved one in those situations telling you to calm down. Often, that’s what’s needed. I do think a gentler delivery “hey, not that serious, can we calm down and figure it out?” is sometimes more effective. But sometimes not. If you’re hearing this message more than very occasionally, then you need to examine your behavior and learn to control yourself.

And point of fact: many people of both genders rarely if ever behave or speak to others in a way where it is necessary to calm down. Don’t delude yourself that your emotional dysregulation is just OK and something others should have to endure. [/quote]

I guess you missed my comment that said it is often said by men gaslighting women, and that I have asked my husband to remind me to be calm when it looks like I might lose my temper with my kids?

Be more rational, okay? [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics