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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one, in the history of calming down, has ever calmed down by being told to calm down.  Infuriating.  [/quote]

At best, it's completely ineffective. At worst, it comes of as sexist, dismissive, mean, and/or uncaring.[/quote]

Not sure about the sexist part. My wife occasionally tells me to calm down and it makes me angrier. I assume it would have the same impact going the other way. I agree with the rest. [/quote]

Society generally views a woman’s emotional expression as undesirable, overblown, hysterical, etc. A man’s anger is acceptable but a woman’s isn’t. This is obviously a generalization but there is a huge gendered component to the problem with saying “calm down.”[/quote]

What society are you living in? In the society I'm in, it's men who are not allowed to express any negative emotion at all because any such expression is treated as anger, and any anger is "toxic". It's ridiculous. Sometimes anger is over the top or a harbinger of violence. Sometimes it's just an expression of the intensity of the person's feelings, which other people could take as a cue that there's something to pay attention to. Women have monopolized the "valid" modes of expressing emotion now.[/quote]

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