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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What specifically is getting you down? Just the slog of other humans needing constant care? I get that. I think it will get a lot better for you when they can read on their own, play with friends on their own etc.

I know you don't want marriage advice and I won't give it, but...can you give DH specific things to do with the kids? Like what happened if you say take them to the park for an hour? Will he do it? [/quote]

Op here. The slog of other humans needing constant care. It feels like it will never let up. I am very tired and down.

If I absolutely INSIST (like almost to the point of threatening divorce), then DH will very grudgingly take them to the park for one hour, but not a minute more. Sometimes they will return from the park after less than 30 minutes, when it took almost an hour just to get everyone ready and out the door. There will never be any tenacity or momentum on his end-every instance of him doing these things requires the same amount of relentless straight up aggressive beotch mode from me. I cannot sustain that so I basically just live my life with my children independently and have no expectations.[/quote]

It lets up. Rather, the challenges change.

The 5yo will becomes easier once they can read to themselves. Once both kids can read it will get even better - they’ll have access to all kinds of entertainment that you no longer have to decided for them. They can use google and look things up - it’s amazing.

Also - consider divorce. It may sound extreme, but I found that once I was only responsible for my child, and not my useless ex, it got a lot easier to have fun with and enjoy my child because I didn’t have that critical other person who was worse than a dead weight. [/quote]

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