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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for all the advice. If it were a common acquaintance, or even a general friend I could see telling her in text, but I'm struggling to figure out the words to say to my best friend, and part of it feels disingenuous to tell her through text, although I hear all of you saying this gives her time to process.  I just want to tread carefully as to not cause her more pain than she's already experienced. And agree, she loves the fact that both of our boys are "onlies" and is constant talking about how they're just like "siblings". I know this is going to crush her. I'm excited for me, but my heart breaks for her.[/quote]

She will experience pain, that's inevitable. But she doesn't have to bear it alone and with time you can share the joy of a new "like sibling" for both of them. Excuse me if I'm projecting, but a lot of PPs are used to dealing with the isolation and grief of infertility alone. It sounds like she's had you and relies on you. I actually had multiple miscarriages after stopping treatment, so though I never ended up with a second, I was also the friend that had to break the news to the friends that stopped after unsuccessful treatment. I really doubt there's anyone else responding that's been on both sides of the situation, and has done so in the context of a close emotional relationship with kid friendships involved. Use your best judgment about how to talk to her, but don't ignore what this means for what she thought her child had. And what she thought she had in another "one and done" mom friend. She will appreciate it and hopefully your friendship can continue for another decade like mine have.[/quote]

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