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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for all the advice. If it were a common acquaintance, or even a general friend I could see telling her in text, but I'm struggling to figure out the words to say to my best friend, and part of it feels disingenuous to tell her through text, although I hear all of you saying this gives her time to process.  I just want to tread carefully as to not cause her more pain than she's already experienced. And agree, she loves the fact that both of our boys are "onlies" and is constant talking about how they're just like "siblings". I know this is going to crush her. I'm excited for me, but my heart breaks for her.[/quote]

You are a good friend, OP. But a lesson that she was always going to learn eventually was that your child was not a surrogate sibling for hers , and she can’t expect you (or anyone else) to keep their family a certain way for her benefit. 
Maybe your kids would have grown apart. Maybe you would have moved. Maybe a million different things. Your family doesn’t exist to make her feel better about hers and while I’m sure she knows that objectively, it will be hard for her to hear emotionally. But the sooner the better because if it wasn’t your pregnancy (And congratulations!) it would have been your kids being in different classes with different interests next year, or your transfer to Portland, or one of many other things.[/quote]

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