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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Google "grey rock".  One thing you wan to avoid is giving her personal ammo.

They other phrase I would put in your arsenal is[b] "what do you mean by that?" or "why would you say that?"[/b].

Beyond that, distance and cool politeness are the best way through.  Stay firm in boundaries if you need to "this is what works for our family" and don't get sucked into any sort of back and forth.[/quote]

I think these are terrible things to say as they just fan the flames.

SIL: Only an idiot would buy Fiestaware.  Oh OP, didn't you just buy new dishes? What kind?
[b]OP: Fiestaware[/b]
SIL: See? Only an idiot
OP: Why would you say that?
SIL: Because everyone knows only morons buy Fiestaware!  I mean, come on!

SIL: People who bring cookies to a party are so lazy. You know they just bought them and then put them in their own container to pass them off as theirs.
[b]OP: I made these. I stayed up until 1am last night baking them. [/b]
SIL: lol, okay OP. Whatever.
OP: what do you mean by that?
SIL: Nobody believe you - everyone knows you just got them at Wegmans on the way here.[/quote]

Uh no, if OP answers the first questions with "interesting, why do you think that?" or "hmm why would say that?" it changes the conversation OFF OP and her choices and BACK TO SIL.  Which is the entire point.  You don't engage further than that.  If SIL insists you own up to liking Fiestware, you shrug your shoulders and say "its what works for my family" and walk away.

You don't try to bunt her fast balls.  You walk away from the plate.  That's the whole point.[/quote]

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