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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The meanest friend I ever had was a woman who had been chubby (not even really fat, just a bit rounder) her entire life, but then got down to a size 2 or so when she was in her early 30s. It was like every mean thing she'd ever thought about herself or that anyone had ever said or insinuated about her chubbier self, she now believed she was entitled to say about others. She had clearly internalized the idea that thinner meant "better" in every way, and therefore decided that once she was thin, she really was better.

The sad thing to me was that her thinness only lasted a couple years and was probably the result of an eating disorder. She went back to her rounder, chubbier self not long after. I have no idea if she ever found self-acceptance with that body -- I got the hell out of dodge when she was in her thin-and-abusive mode. The stuff she said and did during that time was really terrible, and felt doubly awful because it was a way of hurting others AND her formerly chubby self at the same time.

This is why I support the body acceptance movement. You don't have to believe fat is healthy or fat is sexy or fat is beautiful (sexy and beautiful are subjective anyway). But teaching fat people to hate themselves and their bodies doesn't help anyone. It didn't help my former friend and it didn't help the people she abused when she thought she was thin enough to be allowed to do so.[/quote]
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Some people seem to think that being thin means you are a better person, or a superior person, and that it's okay to say things about overweight people that we would all recognize are totally inappropriate and unkind if they were directed at people with any other kind of "flaw."  And it doesn't help people lose weight, let along be healthy or happy.  [/quote]

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