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[quote=Anonymous]OP, as a special needs mom, a couple of things I want to say:  (1)  don't give up on your friend, no matter how isolated she makes herself.  Please remember to call her, retain her on your Christmas Card list (or whatever list), and also expect your child to remember her child on his birthday, as he would remember any other of your friends' children, for his party or his social calls or whatever.  It's not only she who is isolated, it's her child.  (2) Please don't necessarily believe rumors about her being resentful or about her being anything else.  People like to stereotype other people, not just special needs moms, but I have found that many people like to believe that special needs moms are resentful, or attribute many moods or feelings to us that we don't necessarily have.  It's of course entirely possible that your friends is resentful of your well child, but unless you know this first-hand, don't feed the rumor mill.

Finally, your friend is really, really busy with her special needs child.  He may have an extraordinary number of appointments.  I know my child has about 3-4 therapy appointments a week -- speech, physical, occupational, plus school, plus 5-6 doctors that we go to.  It's just totally draining.  So it's not you she's blocking out.  She wants a little time for herself.[/quote]

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